What is the purpose of a relationship?
People enter relationships for many reasons; benefits, fun, short term, long term, marriage, or open, others a mutual friendship. Before going out on your first date, you should know your purpose and intentions. Most people’s will is to try again after a failed or bad experience from the past. Both partners are looking for an ambitious individual, not just someone who desires children, pack their belongings, and live off them. Some “wish” to have short term relationships; the desire to know you before committing to anything of relevance in the future. Be okay with short term relationships; it could be a tricky answer. One easy way to overcome such a question is by asking, are you willing to commit to the long term after a short while? Boom, there goes your answer. Never be insecure about the other person and avoid calls and text messages on your first date. It says a lot about you. Bring a rose if possible. It goes for both parties.
Avoid texting; make it fun.
Talk about each other’s interests, likes, and dislikes.
Love can be very challenging for two couples coming together from two different backgrounds and cultures. Love is beautiful when two people can feel the need to talk about anything freely without the feeling of guilt or shame. Love is free from any pain or hurt; it is shared, not given. What are the other partner’s likes, dislikes, what makes them upset, and what makes them who they are? These are very important to express when two people come together to know themselves on the first date. Remember not to talk too much about your ex. Remember to concentrate on both of you. A romantic dinner would be the right choice for a first date; that way, you could both stare into each other eyes feeling the trust and likeness of one’s sacred place. Never question why the other partner dislikes what you like. Take it as it comes, and eventually, it will work out on its own.
Know each other’s motivation; what keeps both of you going?
For most of us, our past relationships have been an experience, a lesson, or motivation. Your motivation is to share your experience with the other partner. Tell them why and what happened, and the reason you have decided to move on. Be honest, be sincere, and trust yourself enough to share your experiences; it doesn’t matter what the other person feels or thinks about you. What matters is who you are. Be open to questions and discussions. Remember not to exaggerate your ex, the things you did for him, or things he did for you. Remember, in this setting, at this moment, there is someone special than your ex. Thank him or her for the little he /she says. A big smile after a truthful story won’t hurt. Have fun even during the most painful and exciting moments.
What are your goals, career, and vision?
I’ve realized the mistakes that I’ve made from my personal experience. I forget to mention the most crucial part of it, their goals? Goals are essential regarding the type of woman or man you intend to date. Character, self-discipline, and respect all play a part in this area. You know a person by what they do, career, thoughts and their kind of job. If someone’s looks can quickly motivate you, how can you forget how important your surroundings should be. Remember, you are bringing someone around your home, your personal space, and your spiritual life. Do not forget their visions and intentions. Ask questions, even when they feel uncomfortable. A virtuous man or woman knows her place, knows what they want, and ready to move on to greater possibilities with a healthy relationship. You are in charge, be the boss. Bring a pen and a notepad if you would. You can both write anything on paper. You both got the time; use it. Be bold and confident.
The family wants/ needs/ necessity.
When you go on a dinner date, you want to make sure your partner has a connection or tie with his/her family. Is he or she family-oriented? Does he/she want kids in the future, not a priority, just a question. With such discussion like that, you possibly get the answers you both need. Remember not to judge the past or make it seem obvious you are not interested. First of all, you won’t waste all your time being with someone, give them your time and ignore their past, would you? Remember to keep that beautiful smile, ask them what they enjoy at a family’s dinner and what to expect. Do not forget to tell them how beautiful and wonderful they are. Having conservations like this would give you a sense of expectation. A kiss is welcomed but not needed. Remember to hug (it’s a plus), do not shake hands.
